![]() A person is capable of making you feel good physically and emotionally, but they can lack all spiritual connections. It’s not about that because a person can be very capable of making you feel like the most important person in the world for a moment, yet treat you like crap the next. Our generation gets so stuck on emotion and how a person makes us feel. Could they have “fallen out of love”? Yes, if they chose to. Could they have divorced? Yes, if they chose to. They chose to stay together and love one another for the past 24 years. My parents decided to make a covenant before God and got married. At that point, they can’t use “I can’t help who I love or like” as an excuse. Jennifer or Adam, which ever one, CHOSE to entertain that new friend. From the beginning all of that mess could have been avoided. Relationships based on those things lack purpose. That does NOT mean that you have to befriend them or start a relationship. I’m going to be honest, You can have chemistry and be attracted to a lot of people. In this scenario, we see that both relationships, the already maintained one and the side one that developed, were solely based on attraction and chemistry. They begin to fall harder thinking “I can’t help who I like or love”. Things get confusing and heated at the same time. We have so much in common.” Next thing you know, the two begin to hang out and Jennifer or Adam begin to vent about their relationship to this new friend. Jennifer or Adam begin to fall for this new friend thinking, “I can talk to them about anything. They can’t deny the physical attraction or chemistry. They become friends on social media and then that leads to exchanging numbers. Jennifer or Adam finds this person attractive and they also seem to “click”. They get introduced and immediately hit it off. Eight months later, Jennifer or Adam meet someone at an outing with friends. They are attracted to one another, have fun together, can talk about anything, etc. It requires more than just a physical attraction and chemistry to sustain a relationship. If you continue to base your relationships on attraction and emotional connection, they will fail. People are believing the lie that they can’t help who they love or just because they have chemistry with someone that there needs to be some sort of friendship/relationship established. ![]() ![]() That is honestly why a lot of people cheat in relationships and carry that same behavior into their marriages and end up divorced. There’s nothing wrong with that.But it becomes a problem when you start to think and act beyond just attraction. Being attracted to someone or viewing them as attractive is completely normal. ![]() Relationships and marriages should not be based upon simply physical attraction or chemistry. I’m not saying that just because you feel like you can’t help who you love that you’re in a bad relationship. ![]() ”What? You’re trying to tell me that I chose to love that ex of mine or I will choose to love a future girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse?” Yes, that’s exactly what I’m saying! See, I used to say I couldn’t help who I liked or loved as an excuse because deep down I knew that I was even wrong for entertaining the relationship in the first place. What many don’t know or fail to acknowledge is that love is a choice. “You can’t help who you love” often becomes an excuse for loving the wrong person. I’ve heard it so many times, and I’ve even said it before. ![]()
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